You know, in all the RP communities I'm in, in the disclaimer it says the same thing. "Don't take things IC, OOC."
Meaning, don't take "in character" things, "out of character."
You read that part and nod your head and say, hm, simple enough.
But it's not that simple.
When someone says something bad about your character and it wasn't planned into your plot and you know nothing about it, you take it ooc. No matter what. You can bullshit and pretend you don't but you do.
Whether you mean it to be or not, your character is an extension of you. So when someone doesn't like your character, you take it as them not liking you.
Does the person mean it that way?
Probably not. But it's just the way you take it.
And that's when you get defensive. You get defensive and you try to defend your character which only makes things worse because you get into IC fights when you really should have just ignored it.
Everyone wants their character liked. The only people who don't are the people who create the character on the soul purpose of making them evil.
I am one of the sensitive ones. I can't stand for people to not like my character. It's not fun to RP when everyone hates your character and just wishes you would go away and shut up. It's not a nice feeling. And it just seems to be I'm more sensitive when the comments made towards my character are comments made by a friend of mine ooc. I know they don't mean it ooc, but it's how I take it. I can't help that.
And it's what I hate and love most about RPing. You can go through so many emotions on an RP alone.
You can be happy because your character is happy, you can be emotional, you can be heartbreaking, you can be anything your character is. And on those days when you just want to screw the world, sometimes your character is your only sanity.
But on those days where you're fighting with everyone trying to justify a plot, and trying to make people understand your motives, those are the days I hate. When your character's depressed, so are you. So when you're character's upset at something someone said, so are you.
Everyone says, "it's just a game." And it is. But they don't finish that sentence. It's a game, that becomes your life. The plots aren't real, and highly unlikely. Which is partly why most stuff should be overlooked and people shouldn't even waste a comment on it, but they do. And those are the days, where you feel like deleting every single one of your characters until the next few days you have a better day on your character.
And who knows, I could be talking out of my neck about all of this but this is how I perceive it. I could be wrong, and I could be right. Who's to say?
Nevertheless, I said it.